|Me with my big sisters|
Last week I read a great blog post, see it here! It was one of those experiences where your heart races a little faster with both the comprehension of the subject and excitement with it! My great friend Mama-andmore wrote about a subject that we have spoken about in many contexts before, a subject which drew us to one another when we first met at college many years ago and one that intrigues us further since having our own offspring. It is the subject of identifying as mixed-race.
I always have so much to say on this subject that it is very easy for me to get carried away thinking I'm writing my dissertation all over again! In fact, I'm very late in publishing this post because I've re-written it a number of times realizing that I may be going off track somewhat. So, anyway Mama-andmore asked me for a response to her post and without giving it too much thought (so as not to get into dissertation mode) this is what I wrote:
On reflection, my comment seemed rather negative and I came away thinking that I may have done 'both sides' a disservice but actually I think that's because where I live right now I don't really have to think about the colour of my skin. In my average day to day experiences it's all pretty cosy and middle class and safe but this has not been the case all of my life. Even seventeen odd years ago when that hubby of mine and I first started dating there were definitely places where we knew not to hold hands because it wasn't worth the hassle of something kicking off. I've never mentioned this to my eldest son - a boy with a real sense of justice he would find it shocking because thankfully he hasn't had any negative experiences so far of that type. He thinks it's normal to get stopped repeatedly wherever we go and told how 'AMAZING' his hair is! There are definitely advantages to living in a country where 'Mixed-Race' is one of the fastest growing ethnic groups! My cousins and siblings were right all those years ago in Ghana when we said 'one day there will be a third race, the 'mixed-race!'
Mama-andmore and I would love to hear about your experiences too, so do get in touch and leave comments. Lastly, here's a short but interesting article that appeared in a paper today.